Smash the Binary, Save the Sex Drive
What if your sex drive isn’t low—it’s just sick of performing gender?
This week on Untamed Ember, we’re breaking up with the binary and reclaiming pleasure outside the tired-ass scripts of “dominant vs submissive” and “masc vs femme.” From heteronormativity hangovers to queer power dynamics gone rigid, we’re exposing how gender roles sabotage sexuality—and how to rewire your erotic brain for curiosity, consent, and actual turn-ons. If you’ve ever felt boxed in by your role in bed, this one’s for you.
patriarchy and pleasure, gender roles and sexuality, shame and sex, queer relationship dynamics, sexual liberation, unlearning purity culture
Who Gave the Patriarchy a Microphone?: A Shame Detox for Your Search Bar
Shame didn’t start with you—it started with centuries of systems hellbent on keeping you disconnected from your own damn pleasure. In this fiery, trauma-informed deep dive, we break down how patriarchy, purity culture, and colonial control shaped your shame story—and how to rewrite it with science, sass, and unapologetic self-trust. Because your pleasure isn’t a problem to fix. It’s a revolution to join.